I am a Travelmum ❤️


It is May 2023 and it seems I’m updating my blog once every year, but I am more active on Facebook and Instagram, but less than previous years. Last time I wrote about my pregnancy and the first 3 months of motherhood. Today I am 40.5 and my little one is a toddler already 1.5 years old.

You recognize through your child that time is passing fast, every month he is growing and discovering new things and for us it looks like a small but big step in his life as he is talking his first words and walking his own path. 

Often, I was asked: How is motherhood like? I must admit, there are days you are happy with your kid and there are days you are frustrated about life; it is not different than before. A child does not change your life but at the same time it changes everything. 

I gave up my career, my tours and most of my travel lifestyle, my body changed and my daily routine. All week I am mostly alone looking after my son, often weekends too but in addition I need to work.  I am a housewife, I need to clean, organize, feed us, educate a newborn, go shopping and count every Swiss Franc.

Whenever I want to earn extra money I need to organize and pay a babysitter or ask someone to take care.  It is the same if I want some real free time by myself without other people around me but again I lose money then instead of gaining it. Such struggles a father often does not have, if he goes out or gains extra money, he does not have to care to find him/her a babysitter. 

I guess, mostly a father’s daily life does not change a lot especially if he is not living in the same apartment. I cannot judge if it is easier to pay and just have a few hours fun time with a kid or my life now as a fulltime mother plus where not all my living costs are covered. And I also do not want to leave it to the father’s obligation, both have to care for their child or children, financially and with all their care, love and time.

Mostly for unmarried men, not living with their partner or ex, the lawyers calculate all his living costs and the rest of his income goes to the mother of the child. I do not write about how a father’s experience is, because I do not know this, I am a mother. And there should be definitely more help and support from the government.

Raphael’s father loves to take care of his boy and gives me all support if I ask to, and he wants to be there for us in good and bad times. Even if we do not know us much longer than Raphael’s existence, we learn and grow together and share some time and experiences. It is not always easy to be a father nor a mother.

According to Caritas, I count as poor, even if I work 20 to 30 percent of the time, often have a roommate and get monetary support from his father plus that 200 CHF support from the government per month. It is still not enough to pay all costs, like the expensive rent, the insurance and all further costs just to live and eat.

The so called rich Swiss government only support a mother for 3 months with not even a full payment of her last salary, or if she did not work in Switzerland, like me, with a minimum. In other countries a mother can have 1 or 2 years support but here in Switzerland, we get about 200 CHF per month paid, depending on the Canton where you live. 

Is it a good life for the child to be left with childcare from 3 months old, then for the mother to go to work plus with the father working, leaving just evenings and weekends to see them? In my opinion, no, but again the parents must pay for daycare for the child plus the organization with the problem of staying at home if the child is sick? Even the Social Department, if they pay some money now for you, as a mother, you have to pay it back whenever you start gaining once again as soon as your child is in the kindergarten or at school. 

After all this time travelling and having my small budget from Oman and the other countries I have worked, I am good at saving money here and there. Because I needed to fulfill my dreams, to discover all the countries of the world. I have travelled with Raphael to many countries as I want to do my best for him in order for him to learn to live independently and be strong. 

I want to teach him that with his savings later, he can enjoy our world here, which is free, but we humans make boundaries and rules, so now we must handle this and pay for our freedom. 

Inside Andrea is still the same Andrea as before motherhood, with all her dreams and ideas, creativity and love for all humans, but now my time is shared with Raphael, my body has changed and endured pain and needs strength for him.  Now my mind is always thinking about him, my heart is full of understanding, love and care for him.

This is another version of Andrea and Raphael, where she must think and care about herself too by taking care about her body, her heart and her mind. 

Life is now and even if I am frustrated sometimes when I think about my past life, I am grateful, because one day in the future I will think back about my life today but will I want it back, because then I will be older and my boy too. Life is for living and every stage be it good or bad, is never permanent. And I must say, there are such a lot of more intense feelings and love you get with a child. I will never forget about.

Love your life, no matter what happens, and all the best wishes for you. Andrea

2022 What is new in my life?

The year 2021 was mostly me caring about *Raphael Matteo* and myself becoming a mother of a child. 9 months of pregnancy and 3 months of motherhood after giving natural birth, a total of 12 months of all kind of emotions, body pain and life struggles, moving to a new city but also full of luck and love and friendship and family support. I am thankful to have my baby boy in this world and to grow every day as a human being.

Raphael Matteo born 25.09.2021 around 16:30 in Switzerland.

Raphael Matteo, Newborn, 2021
Raphael Matteo

My boy is growing and already 3 months old and about 5 kg. For sure, the first year with him will be intense but in about 1 or 2 years, I am hopefully starting to travel again.

Let us see what the next years bring and not to forget, LIVE THE MOMENT.

All the best, my friends.

Andrea & Raphael

A small present

Today is already the beginning of September 2021 and my last update on my homepage www.funexpected.me was in January 2021, about 9 months ago. Since then a lot has happened.

I originally planned to move to Costa Rica in February 2021 for at least 6 months, but suddenly my plans changed. I wanted to go to a turtle reserve to assist with scientific research, as a tourist guide, to improve my Spanish as well as travel and discover all of South America. However, this big dream is postponed at least for a while, as I await for more research to be done for the vaccination and also there is some other news.

This year in March and April I decided instead to fulfil another dream so I went back to Oman for 2 months, mostly to say hello and goodbye, and to enjoy my freedom without work there, just being by myself and to see my dearest friends as well as to take all my stuff back home since my future at the moment will be in Switzerland, my home country where I grew up.

Back in Switzerland, I finished my first small video named 39, because I will turn 39 on 27th of September 2021. Please have a look here: It is in German. Watch video (finished march 2021):

I started to save money, instead of traveling all the time and to find an apartment for myself and my future baby. Yes. I am pregnant (since 10th of January, conceived  in Slovenia). Some big news and a surprise for me too as it was unplanned and unexpected. But always in my mind since becoming 35 I must admit that the lockdown and corona situation helped me to travel less and to think about my life as well as make other plans.  If I still had a job and a life as a tour guide, maybe I would never be pregnant and have a baby. So I was very suprised that I quickly became pregnant.  Who knows, what happens if you do not plan, let life happen and your wish is in your mind (sounds like a manifestation)?  Even pregnancy is a gift you cannot plan but thankfully I have accepted it.

My new situation will be a challenge for me. It changes all my life, because I was a Nomad for about 5 years, without a fixed jobs or my own apartment, mostly without a boyfriend next to me, totally independent.  Now, however, all is upside down and 180 degrees different. Haha, my baby has already travelled in my belly to about 10 countries during my pregnancy. So I guess in future, I will be just a slower and a quieter traveller, but maybe at the end, not a lot will change.

I have no idea about being a mama and no idea how it will affect my life, but I feel more or less ready for this small baby and my new dreams becoming true. I guess at the beginning I will feel like I travelled 50 hours without sleep, searching for hotels (nappies), going from airport to airport (baby’s mouth to my breast) and looking for sightseeing places (kitchen, bathroom and bed). Guests are always welcome whenever I am not looking like a Zombie of my own movie thriller.

I already know that I will be less often online or in contact with all my followers and friends, because I have my biggest fan wanting me 24/7, my boy. But from time to time I will keep you updated and for sure I will let you know when and how many kg this new life begins.

All the best and lots of love and think about the proverb: IT TAKES A VILLAGE TO RAISE A CHILD. And I am looking forward to meet you again with my baby.


Pregnant Woman
Pregnant Andrea

2021 Update

This year I started in Romania, in a place called Deva in a hotel room, because of curfew. With two of my lovely human souls which I know since the last months, I could celebrate the end of 2020 and in future I would love to meet all my other friends again too. With the two friends I get along very well and we shared the last moments of that year 2020 together and traveled more countries afterwards in transit to go back home to Switzerland.

After the 30 first minutes of my new Year 2021, I was already going to sleep. It was not because I set my limits to this Corona situation (you can party everywhere), no, it was simply because I was tired of 2020. And I was again traveling day by day, hour by hour into 2021. Nevertheless, sleeping is so refreshing and peaceful, and I did not miss anything. I wish for myself in 2021 and the following years new opportunities, different „expect the unexpected“ adventures and a lot of love, sex and fun, such as growth, knowledge and a healthy lifestyle.

Whatever is coming, I am sure to make the best out of it. And I will keep you updated. New ideas are in my mind and the blossom will flourish soon. Happy New Year !!!

Andrea 12.01.2021 in Switzerland where I am currently living.

Wherever you go, you take all with you.

September 2015: Almost going to turn 33 (is this already the midlife crisis they talk about?) and wanting to travel, heartbroken from the last separation with the long lasting relationship, near a burn and/or bore out from her last jobs, finishing MBA studies after repeating lots of semesters.

Finally she struggled inside with her decision and … and then friends think she goes crazy. Her family wanting her to start a family (and all around the question: are you married?), a “safe and secure” life and what she do, that shy girl? Backpacking for months, then years … alone? As a woman?

Did you already experience, someone telling you before your trip that you try to escape? Escape from your – they call it – real life? Noooooo, it is not even possible, you leave your comfort zone? Even your comfort zone was not that comfortable? Why do you leave your routine, your safe haven? How can you just leave all your friends and disappear?

And then there are others, totally happy you go away, that you live your life, that you are more courageous than they are. And that you really GO. And they believe in you.

What this girl needed the most was:

She believed she could and so she did.

Mostly in life, there is an inner call to go, to change your life or something happens that you must change your life. Whatever reason it is, some decide to travel, others follow their passion and decide for something else.  

Neale Walsh slogan is that all change is a change for the better. Honestly, in my opinion, I did not need to experience all I did to get something better. I would also have been grateful for some experiences not to have happened. But at the end, it is better, or it is not the end, they say. I would just call it what happens after or before, is different, not better, not worse, but different. And it is all a process, your whole life.

Anyway, all is about your own perception, but there are some models from famous people, who mastered their journey from a call to restoring order and taking a new place in the old world, when they came back from traveling, for example. Therefore is every trip on our circle of life, the journey of a hero as Joseph Campbell names it?

In my opinion, something first seeming a bullshit in my life, the Coronavirus, made me stop my traveling, that I have been doing for almost 5 years, and I returned to Switzerland.

But here, right now, I enjoy myself with writing text under lockdown, in my own home office. And doing it, it is like giving my elixir I found worldwide to others. Is this change better? I would call it different. For me, a pause, something new and I make the best out of it.

Another big misunderstanding some people think, is, that when you travel, you will just be happy everywhere, but no. Let us make it clear.

Wherever you go, you take all with you. All.

Your parts that are still not healed, your fear, all your feelings and even often it is more intense. Because you travel in unknown places, every day you have to organize your stay, your food, all that you get at home much easier, because you know where it is. All is routine at home. So even at the most beautiful beach, you can sit and be worried, or sad or in fear for your next day, night, or even think of your family at home and miss them.

The best is just, you have your time and mostly you can decide when you want to do what and this is pure freedom. And even this you need to get used to it. At home in your comfort zone it can be the same, if there is too much freedom, like under lockdown, I mean freedom of having time to spend for yourself, and some people are not used to it and fear it, because they are not used to care about themselves, their feelings and worries, to be alone. So it is true.

Wherever you are, you have all with you.

Life always happens. I did learn a lot about spirituality, I also had some visions in my past who came real and telepathy, my intuition is strong.

At the moment I take part in a 21 day challenge. If you also want to follow, take your pen and a workbook and answer the questions or note all you know about yourself. Make a better Self.

AND REA: https://facebook.com/andrea.ritler

To see my posts every day (you can start any day), please read my Facebook page Funexpected.me. Thank you.


Summer in Switzerland 2020

My Flight back to Zurich this 25th of March 2020, because of the actual situation Coronavirus, was very emotional, because I did reserve my seat less than 24 hours before. I have followed the embassy’s advice and my friends and families‘ suggestion to leave the country and to go home with the last direct flight through Oman Air to Switzerland. I could not say Goodbye to my friends in Oman as I wished but I could, apart from packing, being at the police station and driving a friends Corvette until 6 am, spend some hours at the beach for a last splash in the sea.

I had tears in my eyes. I did not know when I can come back and I knew all will be different again. Usually, when I came back to Oman, everything changed. Since 2016 every time I came back to Oman, I had a new place to stay, new jobs and colleagues, new situations of leaving friends and loved ones, and new contacts, and in addition an uncertain financial situation as a female freelance guide in a Muslim country.

And now even this Virus is making the world more or less crazy, it seems like a big chaos worldwide, which will be changing our entire travel and social life. I know that change can be painful and that new times will come.

Now I am back in Switzerland and trying to avoid to go outside. Being outside is my life purpose, to live in nature, enjoy the mountains, Omani wadis, the beach and the desert. It was my daily job. And now I am a kind of stuck somewhere in a still cold and rainy country. And I am not allowed to go and see my friends in groups, which I haven’t met last 8 months. I know that change can be painful and new times will come.

I was reading the slogan: Instead of going outside, go inside.

But as I already experienced before. Change can be painful and new times will come. And I am looking forward to the Chances my life will show me this Summer Break in Switzerland in 2020.

Go inside.